Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Healing After Loss


It's been eight months since Dick died.
When he died I thought time should stop.
There should be some recognition of the passing of this soul by the universe.
I used to say that I was married to a Boddhisattva.
He was kind, compassionate and generous without giving it a thought.
The universe should have at least hiccuped. 

"Make me to say, when all of my griefs are gone,
'Happy the heart that sighed for such a one.'"
~Samuel Daniel


Cheri said...

His life has touched so many others that you may not be aware of. He is still here as others carry on what he shared. Sending warm thoughts to you today.

Carolina Mts

Debra She Who Seeks said...

I'm sure he left the world a better place than he found it. If only there were more boddhisattvas.

BECKY said...

Snap,how blessed you were to have such a man in your life. He's still with you, in your heart and mind. Sending you blissful wishes!

Barb said...

Your loss continues while the world moves forward. I remember thinking this same thing when my Mother died. How lucky you were to be loved by him!

Anya said...

Its been 12 months since Wilfred died
it was oct 14th one year.
My girls and me miss him every day
its hard to go on with my life
(alone) :(

Send you a big hug Snap

LDH said...

How you must miss your knight in shining armor. Hugs

Carole said...

I'm convinced that we never fully heal from such a deep loss. We learn to move on, but we never fully heal.

All we can do is put one foot in front of the other and continue on.

*quote*When he died I thought time should stop*unquote*

I felt that very same way about my mother (I was fifteen). Time had stopped for me, at least temporarily. I was angry that the rest of the world continued on when my own had been so terribly shattered.


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Hugs, Kitty

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

I lost my Dad many years ago, under tragic circumstances, and I felt the same as you do now, Snap. I wondered how life could go on in a normal way when such a good man was now gone?

I think grief holds us in suspension, but it is where one has to be for awhile. It is alright to feel sorrow and mourn. In a way the world and time has stopped for you.

When the time comes to move forward again I know you will do it with a peacful heart for having loved such a good husband.

{{{ Hugs and Peace }}

Pondside said...

I think of you very often - never knew your dear husband but know from your posts what a lovely man he was.

KathyB. said...

He is loved mightily by you, that will not die.

Rettabug said...

Sending a big, warm & gentle {{{HUG}}} your way this morning, Snap. I feel your grief & share in the sorrow of your loss. You've shared Dick's compassion & kindness with us & so his spirit lives on, inspiring others to be better.

Eight months is a very short time to process such a great loss. Be kind & patient with yourself.
My DH is 85 & I can only hope & pray that I'll be able to handle his death as well as you are doing with Dick's.


Dosfishes at Sparkle Days Studios said...

Such beautiful words to express your love for Mr. Dragon. I wanted to feel that stopping of time and harkened back to losing my Mom at 25. I know how you feel, nothing was ever the same after that so in a way time did stop and restart in a different way. Like a slice of time still there marking the signifigance of her life. I believe that slice is there for you too to mark the signifgance of Dick's life. xox Corrine

Johanna said...

Dear Snap,
true love never ends. I wish you can feel his love. I think he is still with you, even you can't see him.
Hugs, Johanna

The Bodhi Chicklet said...

Has it been eight months already? More than a half a calendar year? It must seem like an eternity to you. I was listening to a John O'Donoghue recording the other day and he mentioned how, when we are saying good-bye to a soul on this side, there are others saying hello on another side. I found that so comforting and a little sweet and funny at the same time. Maybe it was the tone of his voice but I felt the words heal me.